Supporting parents through their parenting challenges one step at a time.

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”

- Lao Tzu

  • Focusing on strengths and not on harmful labels!

APPROACH

Jill’s unique strength-based REFRAME approach is designed to help parents gain more confidence, clarity, and calm in their parenting.  Jill’s work is highly customized and designed to help parents focus on their own, as well as their children’s, strengths.  Throughout the process, Jill helps parents implement effective parenting strategies in a way that best supports their children’s cognitive, emotional, and social development. Jill’s approach is non-judgmental, supportive, and practical.

  • READY

    Let's get ready for positive change. What are your challenges, issues, fears, obstacles? We dive into them all!

  • EXPLORE

    Where are the strengths? We explore areas of success and untapped resources.

  • FUTURE

    What is important to you? Let's visualize your desired outcome and discover how you can implement self-care in the process. We co-create actionable steps.

  • REFRAME

    We determine realistic expectations for your child. Let's reframe negative behaviors for a better understanding of their developmental needs.

  • APPRECIATE

    How do you put the relationship first? We dive into the mindset of appreciation using tools and techniques to build strong connections with your child.

  • MANAGE

    We discuss strategies to manage all situations that arise as you are parenting your child. Let's put the right systems in place for your unique family to thrive.

  • ENERGY

    Let’s get energized! Take time to reflect, celebrate, and build on the steps you’ve taken toward positive change.

ABOUT ME

As a parent, I’ve been in the trenches and understand how overwhelming and challenging parenting can be.  I truly believe that needing support as a parent has nothing to do with ability, intelligence, or lack of instincts.  As parents, we have a visceral response to our children’s emotions and behaviors.  Therefore, it truly takes someone who is outside of the family dynamic to help parents gain clarity and insight. 

 I am NOT a perfect parent!  I do NOT believe in perfect parents nor perfect kids for that matter, but I DO strongly believe when we are equipped with techniques and skills, we are more likely to be the parents we strive to be.  These tools help you parent proactively versus reactively. As you become more intentional about your parenting you will begin to make decisions that align with your values and vision for your family. 

 Jill A. Holmes, MS Ed, PCI Certified Parent Coach® holds a bachelor’s degree from the University of Michigan and a Master of Science in Education from Bank Street College in Manhattan.  An educator at both the preschool and elementary school levels, Jill taught in various public and private schools in New York City.  For the past 10 years, Jill has been working as a Parent Educator for Parenting Horizons, Inc. and is also a PCI Certified Parent Coach®.  Jill’s work is highly customized and designed to help parents focus on their own, as well as their children’s, strengths using her proven REFRAME process. Jill currently resides in Larchmont, NY with her husband, 21-year-old daughter and 17-year-old son.

SERVICES

  • Individual Coaching

    Individual coaching is a good fit for a parent or caregiver who wants to become more confident and intentional in how they parent in the face of challenges. After our initial intake session, we will discuss a plan for ongoing coaching sessions that will best meet your needs. Single sessions, multiple session packages, or ongoing longer term coaching is available.

  • Couples Coaching

    This enriching experience supports parents in understanding their inherent values and identifying their unique parenting styles. We build on each of their individual strengths and work together to implement strategies toward their common goals for their children. After our initial intake session, we will discuss a plan for ongoing coaching sessions that will best meet your needs. Single sessions, multiple session packages, or ongoing longer term coaching is available.

  • Group Coaching

    Group coaching brings together parents who are facing similar challenges. Parents support one another in pursuit of their individual goals for their families, and we build a trusting community in the process. Duration of group coaching varies by group.

  • Workshops

    Jill is available to conduct workshops on a wide range of parenting topics including: setting boundaries, discipline, sibling rivalry, screen-time and social media challenges, self-esteem building, as well many other workshops tailored to specific parenting concerns.

TESTIMONIALS

  • Jill was just who we needed to help us navigate our busy lives as working parents to find ways to connect and have fun as a family. We found her method to be very approachable and her easy manner allowed us to explore solutions to our family challenges that we previously struggled navigating together. She listened carefully and assessed our situation, she then guided us to build our own plan, helping us appreciate anew the strengths we each bring to parenting. We saw how small changes that we would not otherwise have focused on can make a significant positive impact. With Jill's coaching—from mealtime struggles to bedtime challenges—we were able to build simple routines that remain today. This brought stability and made space for deeper connections with our children.

    W.B. and E.C. – Tarrytown, NY

  • Jill was a pleasure to work with and we cannot recommend her highly enough! We have a 6-year-old son who’s been having behavioral issues. For the first few coaching sessions, Jill asked us probing questions about his particular issues, our response to his behavior and our general family dynamic, as we also have two other children. We had worked with a therapist before, but her solutions and choice of language felt very unnatural to us. We relayed this to Jill, and she offered us alternative, effective language. She helped us identify the problems and offered numerous options including ways to prevent behaviors from occurring, rituals to encourage self-help for our son and how our reactions could be accelerating a bad situation, even inadvertently. We continue to use the techniques learned through our coaching sessions with Jill. And we especially love our family meetings!

    J.F. & L.F. – Pleasantville, NY

  • As a practitioner in the field of parent education and counseling for over 30 years, I can attest that Jill skillfully combines a deep knowledge of child development theory and application of therapeutic tools with an empathetic approach to parents so that they feel genuinely heard and understood. Her compassionate and non-judgmental attitude helps parents feel safe so that they are willing to be vulnerable around the myriad situations that they face.

    Julie A. Ross, - Parenting Horizons, Inc.

    Author of the best-selling books: “How To Hug a Porcupine: Negotiating the Prickly Points of the Tween Years,” and “Joint Custody With A Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex.

  • Jill was quick to understand our family dynamic and able to immediately dive in to provide us effective tools to work with our children. Each solution was always driven toward meeting our specific family goals and we felt that the discussions were productive and practical. One thing we learned that we found especially helpful was just to listen with curiosity and empathy and not jump into problem-solving mode. This not only helped build our child’s confidence but also brought us closer. We love working with Jill and feel much more prepared to work through challenging moments!

    J.L. – Armonk, NY

  • Jill is my parenting rabbi! She has guided me through various stages of parenting. Jill is my very first call whenever I need parenting advice. My relationship with my daughter is exponentially better because of the guidance and advice Jill passes along. All without any judgement.

    J.K. – Greenwich, CT

  • As a newly single mom, I was overwhelmed by the chaos and explosive behavior I was experiencing daily. Jill helped me be less reactive and more understanding and validating of my children’s feelings. I prioritized spending more quality time with them and focusing on what they are doing well over immediately punishing the negative behavior. As a result, we are experiencing more connection and joy. Working with Jill has been life changing.

    A.S. – New Rochelle, NY

  • Jill is such a supportive and skilled parent coach. She completely shifted my perspective on my role as a parent. Jill helped me accept and appreciate my strengths and see how my children are benefitting from what I bring to the table. Letting go of the worry and the “shoulds” led to better communication and more confidence when setting boundaries with my adolescent children. Working with Jill also helped me understand the importance of incorporating self-care into my life, however small, and in whatever form. Her thoughtful questions always gave me pause and something with which to consider, without ever being judgmental.

    G.B. -Allentown, PA

  • When I stepped back from being a full-time working parent to being a full-time stay at home parent, I knew it would be an adjustment and that I would need some guidance. Jill was instrumental in helping me navigate the transition and to feel confident in my parenting. She provided me with some amazing tools that really helped me connect with my kids and their individual personalities. Every week, I looked forward to our sessions knowing she was someone who I could confide in and learn from. I know I can always count on her to help me through every stage as my children grow older.

    L.E. – Greenwich, CT

  • The best part of my coaching sessions with Jill was when she suggested for me to get something tangible that I could touch or look at to remind me to stay calm. We were working on me not yelling at my kids or losing my patience so easily with them. It was a great suggestion and I still use it now!

    J.B. – Plano, TX

CONTACT ME

Please reach out to request a consultation.